The Grim Reaper -Guest or Pest.

! No one can escape the gaping jaws of Thanatos, everyone must be conscious of the inevitable certainty of their own demise. The grim reaper has visited us all at some point of time, taking away a friend, relative or close family member. Everyone is helpless and some fascinated by the concept of death. People attend funerals out of curiosity, some come to stare at the dead person go back and forget the event, going about their daily life as if nothing has happened. For those, whom it is an unexpected loss, grieve and isolate themselves, some do not know to cope and withdraw from everyone and world at large. Some don’t grieve in public but are hurting inside ,it is difficult to understand their pain and sorrow and frustration. What can we do, except offer our heartfelt condolences? When we are talking about issues of life and death, or talking to people who have lost some one dear, - we really cannot sense how that person lived with the people he loved. We try to acknowledge the grievers pain, we empathize, we offer our shoulder to cry, our clumsy platitudes. But at some point we itch to move on to our lives, and leave the mourner to his own anguish. Not out of callousness, but out of the knowledge that in the end- grief is a lonely and entirely a personal place. We hope those who mourn will pull away from the unruly currents of mourning and rejoin the crowd. Nothing we say really matters, because we know grief’s dark allure. In grief we sound the depths of our love- in that regard, it’s a private privilege. Society has no place there. -vinay-