Everything is impure.

In our lives there will be ten thousand sorrows and ten thousand joys, as Leo Tolstoy stated in “War & Peace” pure and complete sorrow is as impossible as pure and complete joy. Life is about equipoise the exact moment when a wave dies and another wave begins to rise. So if we want to have balance in our live you must experience extreme joy and extreme sorrow. What we call the beginning is often the end, when life for the caterpillar seems to be the end; it is the beginning for the butterfly. Integrating the two and finding the balance is the secret to a blissful existence, one has to achieve this equanimity.
We can change the externals in our life but the difficult part is controlling the internals which is the key or perspective for self realization; for this we must break the years of self conditioning and apply our minds. This requires a lot of strength will power and character because we are weak, due to our inherent herd mentality and teachings of religions, groups, society etc. To set all this aside just follow your heart and beliefs, it may not be easy people may resent it and family may think you are crazy. This extreme reaction stems from culturally conditioned mindset as people like to follow copy and very few are creative in their approach. People might initially mistake it as an attitude problem as everyone generally follows what they have been taught over the years. But if you want true happiness you must break the mould of ignorance and ensure that there are no boundaries. It will be frightening and maddening to suddenly cut loose but it’s the only way you can liberate your self from the prison of societies.