Monday, October 31, 2011

Untill death do us part.

All Societies irrespective of their culture steadfastly conform to the ideal of marriage (until death do us part). Unfortunately in modern society death is the last reason why couples part. In today’s world, people are supposed to fend for themselves and develop their lives according to their own concepts; this is loosely termed as personal growth. Hence with the internet age the old anachronistic arranged marriages that some found humiliating is a dying trend. Yet most of us are still doomed by the rigid code system of the institution of marriage that tries to glue people together long after the marriage has fallen apart.

Marriage like many other things may not always last forever, it is like staring at the sum for too long, tears well up & one must shut their eyes. If the system is founded on our inalienable right to find happiness, then when it reaches a state of unhappiness, should it not be dissolved in our tears?

This social phenomenon is flawed because it is based on the belief in the perfectibility of marriage! (Marriages are made in heavens). In principle it is less than perfect and once the delirium of passion is over, the consolation of simple companionship may not be strong enough to sustain the marriage.

Sometimes the memory of the happy hours spent in the early stage, seems embedded like the sweet music from a violin. A feeling of warmth and tenderness of the earlier phase but when the sweet music is over should the strings be still attached?

Being in consciousness without the bliss is perceived of, as a possession of something that does not work but is being held onto at any cost to please society. Marriage without love creates a spiritual vacuum and living with the corpse of one’s marriage without desire will exhaust you beyond measure. We must peer into our souls for honest answers and what will emerge may not be re-assuring from a societal view point, but wallowing in melancholy is not the answer. It is similar to the pre-marital days when he / she forgets you completely, with the brutal honesty when the affair was over, to pass on from one person another without remorse. That is a gift which only children possess in common with very wise people.

The gift of forgetting, the gift of detachment is akin to spintuality. When the chronic ecstasy is over it is better to move on in search of another potential partner who may be a source of undiluted joy and happiness. We have to fill in our own inner emptiness try to mould our highly imperfect and lovely lives once again. The individual search for happiness is the philosophical foundation and not the trivial cultural and societal codes of conduct, formed by a society that cannot perceive a grain of truth in the whole world.-Vinay-

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