Monday, August 29, 2011
Dont mess up your children.
Why the obsession with our kids’ happiness may be dooming them to unhappy adulthoods. They truly did seem to have caring and loving parents, parents who gave them the freedom to “find themselves” and the encouragement to do anything they wanted in life. Parents who had driven carpools, and helped with homework each night, and intervened when there was a bully at school or a birthday invitation not received, and had gotten them tutors when they struggled in math, and music lessons when they expressed an interest in guitar (but let them quit when they lost that interest), and talked through their feelings when they broke the rules, instead of punishing Until, one day, another question occurred to me: Was it possible these parents had done too much? I think so they are not independent, not strong and will find it hard to survive. Most suffered from depression and anxiety, had difficulty choosing or committing to a satisfying career path, struggled with relationships, and just generally felt a sense of emptiness or lack of purpose— They fuck you up, your mum and dad, they may not mean to, but they do.